Depth-Oriented Therapy for Consensual Non-Monogamous & Polyamorous Relationships
Affirming Therapy for
Couples, Throuples, & Polycules, Online Across
California, Colorado, Arizona, Florida, Nevada, and Virginia
Helping those in diverse constructs heal and thrive in their relationships by empowering you to connect deeply, communicate with clarity, and understand your partner(s) and yourself
You love your partner(s), there is no question about it.
Maybe you have been carrying a quiet, heavy ache in your chest. You’ve been wanting to have a conversation with your partner about opening your relationship, but the words get stuck in your throat, choking you before they can even reach your lips.
Or maybe you recently took that brave, terrifying leap. You opened your relationship with the most beautiful, generous intention, to share the love you have with others. Because why keep it all to yourselves? There is so much love inside of you, and there are so many people in this world who need it.
But in the rush and excitement of changing your world, you didn’t have a map for the terrain. And now that it’s done, the reality of it is hitting your body like a physical blow. Suddenly, the excitement is gone. It has been replaced by a raw, cold terror.
Now, your heart leaps into your throat every single time their phone lights up on the coffee table. You find yourself holding your breath, eyes darting to the screen, watching them type, feeling a sickening knot tighten in your stomach as you wonder who is on the other end.
And when they walk out the door for a date? You spiral.
The moment the door clicks shut, the silence in the house becomes deafening. Your mind starts to construct vivid, agonizing movies of what they are doing, what they are feeling, and whether they are realizing they don't need you anymore. Your chest tightens until you can barely draw a full breath. You pace the floor, checking the clock, trapped in a loop of burning jealousy and suffocating anxiety, terrified that this very thing you chose is going to ruin the relationship you cherish most.
In the quiet, dark hours of the night, you find yourself questioning if you are even right for your partner anymore. And I know how much it hurts to even let that thought cross your mind; I know you desperately don’t want that to be true. But you are having such a hard time expressing these raw, terrifying fears to the people you love, paralyzed by the thought of how they will perceive you. You don’t want to be the "nagging" partner, the "insecure" one, the one holding them back.
You thought this was supposed to be easier. You thought love was abundant enough to hold it all. Yet, it has made everything feel so much harder, so much more fragile.
If you are nodding your head, if your chest is tightening reading this, I need you to take a slow, deep breath and hear me: You are not alone, and you are not broken.
What you are experiencing is incredibly common. Almost every couple who embarks on the journey of opening up hits this exact wall. When we open our relationships, we aren't just sharing our love;y we are exposing our deepest, most sensitive attachment wounds. The panic, the jealousy, and the spirals are not signs that you have failed, or that you aren't "cut out" for this. They are simply your nervous system's natural, human response to a massive shift in your emotional safety.
But You cannot keep pretending you are okay while your nervous system is screaming.
Something has to change, deep within yourself, and in your relationships as a whole, if you are going to survive this and find your peace.
You’re ready to:
Explore Consensual Non-Monogamy or Polyamory with professional support.
Feel heard and understood in your relationship(s)
Navigate past hurts and traumas that impact your connection with your partner(s)
Gain insight into jealousy to prevent it from ruining your relationship(s)
Verbalize your needs with confidence.
Reach Compersion for your partner(s) without sacrificing your own needs.
Have support in navigating the complexities of your relationship dynamic(s)
Create a safe space for functional dialogue to support you and your partner(s)
Equip your relationship for future success.
Exploring diverse relationships can happen
with Online Therapy.
How it works:
Whether you are a Couple, a Throuple, a Polycule, or navigating a Mono-Poly dynamic, the truth is simple: the more hearts you welcome into your relational structure, the more past experiences, childhood attachment blueprints, traumas, fears, and unique personalities you have to manage. It is a beautiful way to live, but it is also incredibly complex, and you do not have to navigate these intricate waters alone.
Our work together is designed to be a steady, non-judgmental container where every partner’s voice is protected and every nervous system has room to settle. We do not use cookie-cutter advice or rigid rules. Instead, we dive deep into the soul of your relationships to build a cohesive, resilient structure that can hold all of you.
Together we will co-create that safety step by step
Analyzing the Relational Foundations
We begin by examining how each of you learned to survive and love; we can make sense of the bedrock of your connection. We will journey into your pasts to gain deep insight into your individual attachment styles and relational development. By understanding how you each learned to survive and love, we can make sense of the ways you currently manage conflict and untangle the reactive patterns that are causing you pain.Exploring Intention, Boundaries, and Agreements
We will look honestly at the original intention behind opening your relationship. Together, we will explore, define, and refine your rules, boundaries, and agreements. We will implement practical, compassionate systems to support the areas of your relationship that feel fragile, ensuring that everyone involved feels seen, valued, and secure.Processing Jealousy and Cultivating Compersion
Jealousy is not a sign that you are doing it wrong; it is simply a map pointing to an unhealed wound. We will work to gently process jealousy and fear when they arise, giving you the somatic tools to soothe your nervous system in the heat of a spiral. We will practice the vulnerable art of verbalizing your raw needs in real-time, while also holding space to discuss and nurture instances of compersion, the genuine joy of seeing your partner loved by others.Strengthening the Connection at Any Stage
Whether you are just beginning to have the conversation about opening up, have been open for years, or are currently navigating complex dynamics with multiple partners, it is never too late to strengthen your connection. We meet you exactly where you are today, without judgment.
The ultimate goal is that you and your partner(s) leave each session with a tangible sense of relief, new insights, and clear actions that you can apply to your day-to-day life. To give you a new perspective to hold, a new approach to try, and somatic tools that allow you to move differently in your relationships, leading to lasting change.
Best of all, you will be doing this deeply vulnerable work with a therapist who truly understands where you are coming from. You won't have to waste time explaining poly terminology, justifying your lifestyle, or defending your choices